Sex and Pregnancy

A newly wedded man asked this question recently "My wife is four months pregnant, since then, the urge to be intimate with her like before is low as I am not that comfortable with being intimate with her in that condition, even if I try to, I won't last 5 minutes. The funniest thing is that, she is demanding more at this time than before"

The concern of many men is that they don't hurt the baby or their wives. Most women who are having a normal pregnancy may continue to have sex right up until their water breaks or they go into labor. You won't hurt the baby by making love. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus protect your baby, and the thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. Although it is advisable not to penetrate too hard.

Some women have a heightened libido throughout pregnancy, so they are more sexually aroused. While others find they're less interested. Many women find that their sexual appetite fluctuates, perhaps depending on how they're otherwise feeling physically and emotionally.

As long as there are no complications with the pregnancy ie the pregnancy has not been described as high risk. It is safe to Be Intimate throughout the period of pregnancy.

I have found that the book "Everywoman" is very helpful, I wish every couple had a copy. Most fears or concerns about what might be happening are clearly adressed and explained.

However one thing a husband needs to ask himself is if he still finds his wife attractive. Many men see their wives as more attractive and blooming during their pregnancy while a smaller number don't. So you need to be honest about the actual reason you are finding it difficult to make love to your wife. But I would like to highlight the fact that the drastic changes that occur in the body of a pregnant woman leave some women very self conscious as well. She might retreat for fear of you seeing her latest stretch marks but the job of you as her husband is to make her feel comfortable, beautiful and blessed. Even though she has a bigger nose and dark neck (I wonder why that happens) in addition to the ever growing belly. Support each other through the changes. Try getting her some pretty lingerie as a gift (be sure to put her larger size into consideration) it might help her and you too.

Finally, husbands and wives should always remember that there is more to intimacy than sex alone.

Do read this article - Sex, Intimacy or Both

Ijeoma Dibor