Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Please Help! My husband has lost his job and I have never worked in my life

Sometimes couples go through tough times. Christians are not exempted from tough times. However our attitude to tough times determines the outcome in our lives.

What do you do when your husband has lost his job and you have never worked in your life?

My advice is this: Apart from encouraging and praying for your husband, find out what you can do with your hands.

I do believe that everyone is gifted to do something. Do not sit down and fold your arms saying that you can't do anything. There is always something to do.

Remember the famous Proverbs 31: 10-31

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

You would realise that this woman does not sit idly waiting for manna to fall from heaven. Rather she gets up to work. 

So if your husband is looking for a job, encourage him and pray for him. Also find something to do with your hands.

Also be willing to adjust to the temporary change without making him feel inadequate. Communicate with one another. It’s a wonderful way to demonstrate your love for each other and to feel like you are tackling the challenges of life as a team.

Let him know how you are feeling and that you are not putting him under pressure.

Most of the important lessons in life are learnt through the hardest trials and going through them with loved ones creates a closer bond. Know that this is temporary and God will not let you go through anything that is bigger than you. He is faithful and His plans towards us are for our good.

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