Tuesday, December 10, 2013

A boy learns how to care for a woman from the way his father treats his mother

Credits: thelmadomenici.com
People often wonder where guys learn how to treat ladies. I do believe that every man primarily learns of how to care for a woman from his parents. A man in his childhood is easily influenced by the way his father treats his woman.

A boy who sees his father talk gently to his mother will learn to talk gently to other women also. 
A boy who helps around the house will also learn that it is not beneath him to help out with the chores around the house. 
A boy who sees that his father can cook and also cooks sometimes in the house will not be held ransom to food in his house when he grows up. 
A boy who never sees his father raise his hand to hit his mother is not likely to do that when he grows up.

Fathers really need to know that they are responsible for the actions of their sons. They need to teach them the right way to behave. Boys who see their fathers treat their mothers  with respect and deal with conflict within the relationship in an adult and appropriate manner are more likely to understand how they are to treat women and are less likely to act in an aggressive fashion toward females.

In an online manual about fatherhood, it is stated that 

One of the most important influences a father can have on his child is indirect—fathers influence their children in large part through the quality of their relationship with the mother of their children. A father who has a good relationship with the mother of their children is more likely to be involved and to spend time with their children and to have children who are psychologically and emotionally healthier. Similarly, a mother who feels affirmed by her children's father and who enjoys the benefits of a happy relationship is more likely to be a better mother. Indeed, the quality of the relationship affects the parenting behavior of both parents. They are more responsive, affectionate, and confident with their infants; more self-controlled in dealing with defiant toddlers; and better confidants for teenagers seeking advice and emotional support.

The onus is on Fathers to help their sons grow up to take care of women in the right way

Train up a child in the way he should go,And when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

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