Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Now that we are married, my mother-in-law insists I kneel to greet her traditionally

Dear Sir,

Before I got married to my husband, my prospective mother-in-law and I were very close; or so I thought. When I visited, I would greet her by giving her a kiss on her cheek and she seemed happy with this.

After marriage, she changed. The day after I got married, I tried kissing her on the cheek. She bluntly refused, with a frown insisting that I greet her in the traditional way by kneeling down to greet her. I was so deeply hurt.

My In-laws are from the Yoruba tribe of Nigeria while I am from the middle belt of the Nigerian and I have liberal parents.

What do I do?

Worried Wife.

Dear Worried Wife,

The Bible says in Proverbs 4:7 "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefor get wisdom: and with all getting get understanding."

Even though we live in modern times, we must realise that as Africans, we must not forget our cultural values. Before marriage, you may have realised but ignored the fact that your parents-in-law are traditional in their cultural beliefs and values.

Summarily I would advise that you adjust and respect these cultural values. I don't think it would hurt to give them the respect they require.

Francis


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