Tuesday, April 29, 2014

How To Go About Loving...



When we are old and gray,
By your side will I still lay...

Over the years, I have come to accept that I am an hopeless romantic who might never get over the love of love. I am that person in the crowd that gets moved by the display of love between strangers. I see acts of love as acts of bravery because it takes a lot of courage to give oneself to another gambling with not getting any love back or not getting as much as one has given.

Before now, I never fancied myself one for love because love did seem like a bad thing then and for many years I tried to guard myself against being too seriously engrossed with another individual. I used to be that person that always had her pride and attitude on standby for when things weren’t going my way. This attitude saw me hopping from one relationship to the other. The ability to forgive wasn’t my strong point too. It just doesn’t make sense for me to stay in a relationship where my head has stopped ruling, being in control was very important to me

I have learnt some life lessons in becoming who I am and I’d love to share them with you:

Love is not perfect, I need not be told how deeply my husband loves me but he gets on my nerves atimes. There are times I just want to be left alone but even in those times I know we would be just fine. We argue but we love ourselves. Love doesn’t necessarily have to be about two perfect people who complete each other’s sentences.

Love always forgives, I have lost count on how many times I have had to do this or vice versa because being humans make us prone to mistakes and in order to move forward one has to be able to let go of whatever grudges one might have.

Just allow things flow, following textbook steps might make love look like a bit of hardwork,so, relax and just let it flow. If you don’t feel it then don’t force it. Everyone deserves to love and be loved back.

 Exchange of gifts actually makes for healthier relationships. Gifts in this sense don’t necessarily have to be extravagant. The thought behind it is what matters.

Love is not a game, it is not about who won what or who lost what, it is built on selflessness. Manipulation just causes strife.

It is alright to feel like one is not in tune with the other person atimes. One just has to find a way of reconnecting, love is made new everyday by conscious acts and effort.

Above all, to love another, one has to be able to love oneself. If one is coming from a place of hurt, one needs to heal before going into another relationship.

Love is indeed a beautiful thing.
 







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