Falling in love has to be in the class of one of the coolest
things in the world. It is so great to have another person’s name constantly ringing
in one’s head and having private laughs just remembering how great the times
spent together were. This part is no doubt the easiest part of a relationship. It
is just the heart alone on a wild selfish exploit. There are no deep thoughts
involved, one doesn’t have to deal with the long term (yet).
It gets realer when one needs to take the step to seal
things up forever. See, I am a romantic (or I like to think I am) but I think some
things are just logical. Falling in love isn’t enough, there are other things
to consider. I read of a lady that dumped a guy she already had an introduction
ceremony with because she wasn’t sure of his potentials. Five years later, the
guy is still struggling. I am not about to mock any one’s struggles but some
facts just speak for themselves. Dreams are good but they don’t pay bills and
when things get really tough, egos and feelings will be scarred. You don’t want
to set yourself up for a miserable life.
Marriage takes some deep thoughts and below is a list of the
guys you don’t want to end up with.
·
The dreamer: he has a blueprint of what
everything should be in the ideal world. He might even deceive you he has got
some potentials but don’t be deceived my love, he will still be on that mode in
many years to come. You don’t need a dreamer, you need a doer. Someone that can
hold his own and take care of the family. Put on your running shoes and run
fast from that man. Forever is a long time.
·
The stingy man: I can’t even explain this
because I don’t understand how one can be stingy to whom one loves. I understood
the concept of giving and receiving from God premised on that. The ability to
give is closely linked to love. Your parents gave up many things just to give
you a great life because they love you. God rains blessings upon us because he
loves us. Partners exchange gifts because they love themselves. It is a no
brainer. Don’t allow yourself make excuses for such person’s behavior. You don’t
want to be stuck in such relationship forever. Move while you still can.
·
The selfish man: he is all about himself, he probably
thinks he is doing you a favour by proposing to marry you. He can literally
choke on his own air of self-importance. There are always telling signs like
when he had to go the gym when you were ill at the hospital or when he will
rather upgrade his smart phone while you still go about with that cellotaped
one. He just doesn’t see anyone’s situation outside his own. You don’t need
him. There will be times you will encounter situations that need selfless
approaches and you don’t want to find out then that you have been riding solo
all along. I know men that take public transport just because the only car
makes it easier to transport the kids and their wives.
·
The womanizer: Do I even have to tell you this?
Moving on.
Like I said earlier, love surpasses that superficial passion
of enjoying another’s company. Falling in love is that infatuation part and
very far from the real deal. While chemistry forms a large part in deciding whom
we might want to settle with, it is not enough and we need to watch out for
some things because love doesn’t have to hurt.
Some men change while some stay stuck with their annoying
personalities. Don’t make someone else’s drama yours, just don’t deceive
yourself on the things you think you can handle. There is always that voice of
reason that rings in every one’s head when one is about to make important
decisions, be very sure you are ready for the whole ride. Look well and listen
before you leap.
There are always issues between couples but they need not be
ones that go to the very foundation of their co-existence.
Cheers.
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