Monday, January 12, 2015

How To Get Out Of The Friendzone(Guys)

Nothing hurts more than loving another with little hope of being loved back same way. It’s really disheartening to hear one’s love go on and on about another. Often times, you might even have to console that special one that holds the key to your heart through a heartbreak. She might see you as a caring and fun friend, someone she can always rely on no matter what. But that is where the issue lies, the relationship never goes past that. You are a very good friend and nothing more. Do you ever wonder how you can get out of that messy situation?

First things first. We need to recognize what the real issue is here because chances are she is just not into your kind of person. Women are almost 100% sure they are into you from the first few hangouts. So, you either become more than friends or she reaches the conclusion that you can only make ‘good friends’. There is no big explanation to this other than that you are not just her type. If you fall in this category honey, you need to keep walking. You would be begging for her love and that way you would make yourself opened for exploitation. You don’t want to be caught up in situations such as this. As they say, there are lots of fishes in the ocean. Be a wise fisherman.

However there is the other situation whereby she knows you are interested in her but needs you to man up and step up to your feelings by voicing it out or doing something to signal your intentions like setting up a date. It is not enough that you are hovering all over her like insects on a petal. Most people in this category are the ones that are scared they might ruin the friendship by asking the girl out. Thing is you need to think of yourself and your feelings too because you also matter. What is the essence of a friendship where you are miserable 99.9% of the time.  It is also possible that you asked her out at some point and she said she just wants to be friends and now, you don’t know how to get yourself out of this fix.  Well, it is time to get you out of you misery.

Most importantly, you need to improve yourself. Women can’t get enough of a successful man, she needs to know you are so much better than just a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on. Improve yourself intellectually and physically. Some women improve their looks through the use of make ups but as a man you need to groom yourself. Get a nice hair cut, exercise and get that chiseled look if you can. Just make sure you improve yourself. It not only gets you noticeable but it helps with your confidence.

Spend time out with other people. There is a popular saying that nobody wants what someone else doesn’t want. Don’t choke her by spending all your free time with her. Give her some time to miss you .

She will probably notice the changes in you and you are sure to perceive her changed attitude towards you if she is interested in you. Move on it and take her out on a date or something.


Note however that if you fall in the first category I mentioned earlier, she is probably not going to change towards you because you are just not her type. If this happens, look for someone else and  stop wasting your time my brother.

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