Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Why should a Christian Couple get a divorce based on irreconciliable differences?

It just struck me as odd that some Christian couples would get a divorce based on "irreconciliable differences". 

I then tried to get to get some information about this term. 

Wikipedia says "Any sort of difference between two parties that either cannot or will not be changed can be considered irreconcilable differences. A difference could be that of a difference in character, personality, belief, or some other personality trait."

Here is another definition - "The existence of significant differences between a married couple that are so great and beyond resolution as to make the marriage unworkable."

I then pondered on the fact that two Christians have decided that there are differences that are so great that they decided to part ways and get a divorce.
I considered the fact that even when God considered the difference between Himself and human beings, which by the way is like Day and Night, still deemed it fit to send His Son Jesus to die for us so as to reconcile mankind to Himself. He did not cite "irreconciliable differences"  He saw it was possible and He made it come to pass.

So If God can do this for any man or woman, why can't man do it for his spouse and vice versa? 

When Jesus was asked this question, "Master, which is the great commandment in the law?"  He answered thus, 

"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets."

So what is that irreconciliable difference?

The Bible states that marriage between a man and a woman is like that of Christ and the Church. Imagine what would have happened if Christ gave up on humanity? If He had jumped down from the cross and said that humanity was not worth it based on "irreconciliable differences", where would we be as Christians?

Also remember the story of the Unforgiving Servant or debtor in the Bible - Matthew 18:21-35.  The King forgave his servant but the servant did not extend the same to his fellow servant.  God forgave us but we cannot forgive and live peaceably with our spouses and we ask for a divorce. This is basically the same thing.

Mind you God really hates divorces. It makes Him look like a failure. He created the institution because He knew it was good for humanity. But we say we cannot live with another human being peaceably in marriage due to irreconciliable differences. 

We really need to seek and embrace the fruit of the Spirit in our marriage - love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance.

Nothing is too great to make God look bad.  Marriage is good and is designed to be good because God intended it to be good.


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