(This is a continuation. Kindly read the first installment here·
- Don’t get
married hoping to replicate another couple’s marital success: Mentors are good
but there is that point where the line should be drawn. We all are different
and our situations aren’t the same thing. If you are thinking of getting
married hoping your husband/wife ought to be like your dad/mum or hoping your
husband ought to be like your friend’s husband, then you are not ready yet. Things
get negotiated for in marriages, you shouldn’t impose a vacation you might not
be able to afford.
- Don’t get
married because those around you are pressuring you to: The society puts
everything in one’s face. You see your old schoolmates and their cousins saying
the big ‘Yes’ and it is hard not to wonder when yours will come. My dear,
everyone’s time is different, don’t ever allow all these get to you. It will
definitely come for you at your assigned time.it is your life and you should
live by your rules. Family and friends might mean well but they won’t be the
one married to a mistake. Take your time, the change in status doesn’t translate
to happiness if you get it wrong. Don’t allow the pressure make you make all
the wrong choices.
- Don’t get
married just for better finances: Look for better reasons to love him/her
and judge him now before the ring. What if he loses that great job or she becomes
incapacitated? What becomes of the bills and probably your children’s welfare?
You are not allowed to be so short sighted.Asides from all these, All that glitters isn’t gold is a very familiar
and true phrase. You need to look for something deeper and also work on yourself. Trust me when I say you don’t want to be broke, divorced and
miserable.
