New Internet Enabled Pillow? Or Intimate Enabled Lifestyle?

I came across an article about this new internet enabled pillow for couples in long distance relationships which glows when one partner lays his/her head on it it and lights up the other persons pillow, it lets you hear each other's heartbeats by plugging in earphones and basically tries to simulate an intimate interaction between people that might be in totally different continents (I'm sure you get the picture).  

This got me thinking of how much we take our loved ones for granted. Hubby might just upset you and you give the silent treatment, wifey might get back from a long trip and you realise that is the first time you've hugged in ages, we might not remember to hold the hands of our old parents (if they are into that sort of thing) till they are laying in state or just sit and listen to their long stories of recollections of the 1960s.

Maintaining a Successful Relationship by Dr. Phil

Five and a half years into their marriage, Stacy and Chris, a Dr. Phil Family, ask for help rebuilding their union. Dr. Phil offers this advice. 

Have a solid friendship.

"Ask yourself what kind of friend you are being to your mate," Dr. Phil says. He asks Chris and Stacy what they enjoy doing with their friends, whether it be talking about silly things or sharing a good joke together. He then advises them to apply that same openness to their own relationship. "If you want a good friend, be a good friend," he suggests.

Meet each others' needs.

"The success of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it meets the needs of two people," Dr. Phil explains. He tells Chris that he needs to discover what Stacy's needs are. "Maybe she needs a soft place to fall that day or she needs a shoulder to cry on," he says. He tells Stacy that she doesn't always need to agree with her husband, but she should figure out his needs, whether it's saying that she's proud of him, or that he looks nice that day.

Set specific goals.

"Wake up each morning and say, 'What can I do today to advance the ball?'" Dr. Phil advises. Even small things will accumulate over time and make a difference. Find a quiet moment each day and come up with a specific goal to improve your relationship, whether it's calling your spouse during the day just to say hi, or telling your mate that you love him or her more often. Make a conscious effort.

Practicing the Principles of Discipline by Kellie Copeland Swisher

No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening…. But afterward there will be a quiet harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.Hebrews 12:11, 

Isn't parenting wonderful? I can honestly say that I have loved being a mother at every stage of my children’s lives—from infancy through college. In raising all four of them, I've learned an important truth: God’s grace is sufficient, no matter how old our children are. He always gives us the wisdom we need.

James 1:5 says, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” That’s a great scripture for parents. We’re not asking for wisdom from someone who won’t give it. God says, Ask and I’ll give you more than you need. The Amplified Bible says, “Ask of the giving God.”

I recently asked the Lord what He thought about parenting, and He said something surprising: I want to help, but My people won’t let Me. They close the door on My wisdom and grace.

Golden Pieces of Advice for Mothers from Mothers

When I gave birth to my daughter I was given so much unsolicited parenting advice that my husbands best friend had to advise me to bear with all the advisors and follow my instinct. So in keeping with the trend, here is a list of advice for new mums that I think is very precious and should be inculcated such that it becomes instinct.

1. Just when you think you cannot take ‘it’ (no sleep, tantrums, whining) anymore, they stop and bring on something new. Just ride it out and enjoy the good, knowing that the other annoyances will pass.

2. Everything is temporary…they won't go down the aisle in diapers 

3. Leave the tooth alone. It will come out when it’s ready. This advice has a deeper meaning that can be applied to many mothering moments.

4. Don't make sleep a goal. Just enjoy it when you can get it. Constantly hoping and expecting sleep will make you miserable. Instead, just sleep when I can. It will make a huge difference to your sanity.

After Earth -The review

Movie Info

A crash landing leaves teenager Kitai Raige (Jaden Smith) and his legendary father Cypher (Will Smith) stranded on Earth, 1,000 years after cataclysmic events forced humanity's escape. With Cypher critically injured, Kitai must embark on a perilous journey to signal for help, facing uncharted terrain, evolved animal species that now rule the planet, and an unstoppable alien creature that escaped during the crash. Father and son must learn to work together and trust one another if they want any chance of returning home.


Despite all the uncharitable...no, awful reviews and press this film has gotten I just had to see it. I saw the trailer and it looked amazing, I wanted to see it and no false press is gonna stop me. Many think the film really is just one giant vanity project for Will Smith's ego(And a vehicle to promote his son and show the world the sheer talent) well who cares. I strongly believe its just that

14 Red flags Men Should Look Out for in Relationships -By Brett & Kate McKay

Below are some of the common red flags that researchers and therapists recommend you look for in a relationship.

1. She’s a self-proclaimed “Drama Queen.” Beware of women who not only proclaim themselves to be Drama Queens, but also revel in the role. Drama Queens often swing from one emotional extreme to another; when life seems a little boring or flat, they’ll go out of their way to stir up a controversy. They’re often impulsive and demand to be the center of attention all the time. What’s interesting is that Drama Queendom isn’t just a character defect, it could actually be a psychological disorder called “histrionic personality disorder
.” Who knew? Drama Queens can be very alluring and attractive in the beginning of the relationship because of their seemingly outgoing and often seductive personalities. But the shtick gets old after a while and constant drama in a long-term relationship just makes people miserable.

Time to Get Your Light Back

I will not make this too long because its the first of the month and I know you have things to do.

Last night there was a crazy storm. It rained and rained and rained some more. So much so that the power went out some houses on my street still had power (if you've visited Nigeria you would be familiar with  this). Some times the power company  does  that to protect equipment and sometimes you just have to switch phase so you can get your lights back on like other houses.

While trying to get over the "light envy" I got thinking about a dear young lady who wrote to us about not being able to give her heart to anyone else after she lost her fiance in an accident a week before their wedding.

One thing that is common to us all is that, like houses we will all go through  or  have been through a storm and we are all affected differently.  Sometimes our power as people shuts down like the circuit breaker to protect us from further trauma. But just because they  go off, doesn't mean they need to stay off. experiences effect  us differently so while some houses have power all through the storm, some wont.