The Platform Nigeria presents a Zoom webinar titled "The Family as a bedrock for a strong and stable society" | October 1

On October 1, 2020 (3.00p.m) - The Platform Nigeria will feature digital workshops on salient topics in Nigeria today.

One of the digital workshops will be looking at "The Family as a bedrock for a strong and stable society."

In the last couple of years, the Nigerian family has evolved from the traditional Nigerian extended family structure to the western style nuclear system. 

This evolution is due to the acceptance of the western culture, extension of modern education, increasing affluence and globalisation.

Video: A talk about sexual intimacy in marriages by Francis and Oluremi Ebuehi

My wife, Oluremi and I had a session on Covenant Marriages, an initiative of Covenant Nation, a church pastored by Senior Pastor, Poju Oyemade.

The episode is titled "Between the sheets" and it is about Sexual Intimacy in marriage.

For those who don't know me, Oluremi and I have been married for over 22 years. We are marriage counsellors at Covenant Nation and we have three children. 

How good your sex life is, is also a function of how well you communicate with each other” - The Ebuehis.

Watch the video below:

When your closest colleague is also your husband - Bill and Melinda Gates

It is very important to allow each other to thrive in a relationship without feeling insecure and wanting to outdo the other.

Here is a video about Melinda Gates talking about working with Bill Gates and how it feels when your closest colleague is also your husband.

To Those Grieving - You Are Not Alone

Dear BrokenHearted One,

Would you believe if I told you that thinking about your situation breaks my heart into small pieces?

Not because I understand how deeply you have been hurt or because I can relate to your level of grief but because I do not know what to say or do to bring you out of your misery.

I see the distant look in your eyes and I am scared you may never be present with us again no matter how near you are.

I also suspect there are times you close your eyes and open them again wishing your situation is a nightmare. You know I do this too with the hope that we can joke about it all in one of the social media chatrooms.

I ask after your welfare because I really do care and I know that the ‘I am fine’ reply is the wall you have built to shut out all the long sermons.

I am here with all these questions on whys and what-ifs but all I can hear is my own voice. I feel so defeated because I really do wish there was a balm that can be prescribed and applied to your torn heart.

My dear, I have typed so many times hoping to send you one of those long messages that all of those that care about you do send but I am sure you hardly read them anymore. So, I wouldn’t be sending this one to you.

New Year, Same Old You - That Rubbish Has to End

I love this time of the year especially that period from Christmas to the New Year. The wind blows differently and half the time, I cannot tell the days apart. It is always so joyful and warm.

The fireworks and loud banging sounds ushered in the new year. I was in a solemn mood, I had been praying and reflecting a lot in the last days because a lot happened in the year that passed that made me one of the lots that just wanted to jump right off November into January.

My wish was granted actually because December passed away in a blinding flash and here we are already on the second day of a year we just ushered in.

The new year seems to many like a new page or a new slate. To be honest, I am tempted to think it is but here is the thing. Clean slates and pages are good but they only exist in our minds.

Have you had that talk with your child? Yes, about the birds and the bees?

Some Christian parents do not think it is necessary to talk about the birds and the bees when their children come of age. They think the children should only know Bible stories. Trust me, if you are one of such parents, you are living in a dream world.

By the way, "The Birds and the Bees" is an English-language idiomatic expression and euphemism that refers to courtship and sexual intercourse. The "Birds and the Bees talk" (sometimes known simply as "The Talk" is generally the event in most children's lives in which the parents explain what sexual relationships are.

Why should a Christian Couple get a divorce based on irreconciliable differences?

It just struck me as odd that some Christian couples would get a divorce based on "irreconciliable differences". 

I then tried to get to get some information about this term. 

Wikipedia says "Any sort of difference between two parties that either cannot or will not be changed can be considered irreconcilable differences. A difference could be that of a difference in character, personality, belief, or some other personality trait."

Here is another definition - "The existence of significant differences between a married couple that are so great and beyond resolution as to make the marriage unworkable."

I then pondered on the fact that two Christians have decided that there are differences that are so great that they decided to part ways and get a divorce.