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Wednesday, November 26, 2014
Monday, November 24, 2014
How? Why? When? Just a few days ago, I was trying to come to terms with the death of Myles Munroe and his wife, now this? I hear people say it everyday that life is too short, and I now know that no matter how long we live, our lives will be too short for all we can achieve. For us to feel a sense of fulfillment during our last few breaths, we need to make our marks in our own little way.
Depression is an illness that catches a lot of people unawares; it is not like flu, where you get symptoms like headaches, fever, or the occasional blocked sinus. It creeps in when you let your guard down, and before you know it, you are mad at the world, or worse, disconnected from the world. A lot of research has gone into helping depressed individuals, however, in spite of the many anti-depressants on the market, people still commit suicide, get addicted to drugs, or even lose sight of their purpose in life, and just end up floating through. To tell depressed people to just snap out of it might seem mean right? But what if it works?
How do you put an end to abuse?
Thursday, November 20, 2014
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
There are set societal standards we are expected to follow when we go into relationships. There are stages we are expected to follow, and in some cases, these stages are attached to certain time limits.
Recently, I've been observing and reading stories of couples on wedding blogs. When I read some stories where the grooms said they fell in love at first sight, or knew they would marry their bride after three dates, I wrinkled my nose, laughed out loud and ended my derision with 'yeah right'. However when I took some time to think about the pace in relationships, I couldn't help but admit that there should not be any set durations for relationships.
Some couples meet and know from the first day that they are meant to be. For some couples, it may take months, while others may take years. I asked myself what determines the pace of a relationship? Is it the number of dates, the amount of fun activities done together? Or the amount if time spent spwaking to each other? I came to the conclusion that the relationship pace is set by what couples talk about. So many couples spend a lot of time together, but don't have quality conversations. Of course society looks at such couples and decides after a few years that they are ready to embark on a marital journey. Few years down the line, the cracks begin to show and people wonder what went wrong. On the other hand, some couples date for a few months before marriage, and go on to have the best marriages ever.
I have come to the conclusion that couples should set their own pace, and not necessarily attempt to follow the standards set by society. After all, it's not about how long the relationship is, but how well a couple connects.
Sunday, November 16, 2014
Thursday, November 13, 2014
This parable got me thinking about us humans and our dreams. Our dreams are like seeds that we scatter across the ground. We hope they'll ll grow but we really don't know what to expect when we put them out there. Some of them fall along the path and are snapped up by the vultures of the world. We sometimes share our dreams with people more experienced than we are, and we end up being sidelined. Sometimes our dreams fall on shallow soil. These are the dreams we don't dedicate a lot of attention to because we believe more in their failure than their success.
Our investments in these dreams are shallow and lackadaisical. These dreams soon wither because they are scorched by the harsh realities of the world. Some of our dreams start growing but they are stifled by the many adversaries we meet on the road to success- fake friends, society, discrimination etc. These dreams eventually die of strangulation. However, there are those dreams that fall on fertile soil; these are the dreams we nurture, the dreams we ensure do not fall among the thorns of society, the dreams we protect from the vultures of the world. Sometimes these dreams only fall on fertile soil after we have thrown some of our dreams in the wrong places. Sometimes we have to go through all the phases to reach our fertile soil. Sometimes we get lucky and our dreams fall on fertile soil the first time.