Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Three Lessons The Death Of A Loved One Teaches You

Is there a right time for death to come?

Should one be thankful for the diagnosis of a terminal illness that allows for proper goodbyes and preparations to be made?

Are we asking for too much if we ask to be notified just before death strikes?
Sadly, we all are going to die and unluckily for many of us, death never tells us.
We may be here one minute and gone in the next. All the things that we thought were important just fizzles out.

I have heard news of the death of great rulers and I have seen the end of common men. Every day, the news speaks of numbers that were swallowed by the earth and sometimes, of many more that got burnt to ashes by suicide bombers. They all seem so far-fetched to me.
When a picture pops up on social media of the demise of someone’s someone, I may pause to check, and then offer words of encouragement to the bereaved. There wasn’t much of an emotional investment on my end, making it easy to forget and move on.

However, these past weeks have had me pondering about death in a different way. This is because when you lose loved ones, it hits home.
You feel shaken and bare. ‘How could death have struck so close?’ You wonder.
You are left with a void that may never be filled. 
But then, you realize that however long we live, we will never live long enough.  Nothing is guaranteed, I tell you.

When a loved one dies, there are so many lessons to learn.

LESSON ONE
The most obvious one being that – all is indeed vanity.
Not many people will remember the tags on your clothes or how expensive the cologne you wore was. What they would never forget however, is how you positively impacted them. They will recall the light that shone in your eyes when you step in a room. They will remember the sacrifices you made. They will recall all the loving memories you created together. They will hold on to how you made them feel.
Living life can get so distracting that we stop focusing on what really matters. But life can be a lot better if we know that death is a price we are all going to pay.
Understand that mundane things are really what they are-mundane.
Let your loved ones know just how important they are to you. What we have is right now, make it count.

LESSON TWO

Also, prepare for death. It is inevitable. Secure the future of your little ones and loved ones. There are good insurance policies, discuss with your financial planner to see the one you can afford. Talk to your lawyer, prepare a will.
You may plan for all these and still be around forever or pass away the next day- death remains a mystery; we will never be able to tell.

LESSON THREE
Above all, your soul matters. There is hope for redemption while you are alive. If you haven’t given your life to Christ, please do that now. He loves you and there is a guarantee that your life after death will be better if you allow him a space in your heart.

Friday, July 14, 2017

Raising Mentally Balanced Children

The internet bursts with all kinds of news everyday making it really hard to keep up. The swiftness with which the news fizzles out makes it impossible to discuss or even learn the lessons presented in some situations.

Some weeks back, I read the news about a boy that wanted to kill the new girl in his class because she displaced him from the 1st position in their class assessment. 

His plot was unraveled by some other students in the class who saw him when he was about changing the water in the girl’s water bottle to a poisonous substance. Like the news on its own isn’t heartbreaking enough, we were told that the kids involved are about twelve years old.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Should You Tell the Officiating Minister at Your Wedding That You Are Pregnant?

Love, Happy, Pregnant, Family, Together, Day, DaddyFor a wedding to take place, you need to have an officiating minister who might also double as your pre-marital and sometimes marital counsellor in the course of your marriage.

After all, it is like they say, “no one is the sole custodian of wisdom". For you to be properly guided by the counsellor, you should be upfront with the truth about your lovelife just like you would be if such person were your therapist.

This was what played in my mind as I binged on old episodes of Preachers of LA the other day. You see, as old fashioned as my TV taste can be, I find myself catching up on some episodes of these shows and I must confess real life gives fiction a run. The issues that unravel are sometimes jaw dropping.

Friday, June 23, 2017

Being a virgin is not old fashioned, it is God fashioned

Recently I was on a plane from Johannesburg to Cape Town and I decided to while away the time by watching one of the films I downloaded offline from Netflix - "The Wedding Party".

For those who do not know much about this film, it is essentially about the planning of a wedding between a 24 year old girl, Dunni, played by Adesua Etomi and Dozie, acted by Bankole Wellington a.k.a Banky W. The couple took a vow of chastity and were looking forward to a ground-breaking first night together as a married couple.

From the film, one can deduce that Dozie has been a "player" and has been with many ladies while Dunni was a virgin.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Actually, Everyday Should be Mother's Day

Discovering myself didn’t happen in a day. Matter of fact there is no way I can talk about discovering myself without mentioning the role my mother played in shaping my life.

For a long time, her voice was the loudest in the crowd, cheering me on even when I couldn’t find any strength or reason within myself to continue.

My mum like most mums took it upon herself to make sure that I started to see myself through her eyes-amazing, gifted, special, talented and every other great adjective you can find. I am her miracle and even when my reality doesn’t give credence to how great she thinks I am, her voice keeps ringing in my head keeping me focused on what matters.

Mothers are gems, they are the most precious and rarest you can ever find. Till you show me something to the contrary, I would stick to my belief that mums are created with a special kind of material different from the average person’s and I mean this well. 

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Come for the "Marriage Town Hall Meeting" at Covenant Christian Centre - June 26



The Marriage Enrichment Unit of Covenant Christian Centre is holding a marriage town hall meeting for married couples.

The theme of the meeting is "Naked but not ashamed"

God created marriages to last a lifetime

When you read about the failure of many marriages in the news, you might wonder whether there are even any successful marriages out there. 

Don't be deceived! There are a lot of successful marriages out there. Not marriages that the partners are just barely accommodating but marriages that the partners are enjoying one another's company. 

You must believe that the Devil wants you to believe what you read in the tabloids and believe that there is no hope for marriages in this day and age.

Understand this truth. The institution called Marriage was created by God to last a lifetime. And God created this institution to mirror the relationship between us and Jesus. Are we saying that we should stop having a relationship with Jesus because some people turn against Christ everyday? No! There are people who still have a wonderful relationship with Jesus Christ. And as well, there are people that have wonderful relationships in their marriages.
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