Monday, September 11, 2017

3 Things You Shouldn't Do After A Break-Up


Some of us are lucky at love while others are not so lucky.

There are so many online relationship recipes on how to get Mr. right and some on how to keep the perfect Mr.

As clever as some of these suggestions are, you need no soothsayer to tell you these kinds of advice are tainted. This is because Mr Right is a fluid concept. The one that is perfect for me may be wrong for someone else.

I don’t intend to make this post about philosophies. Trust me, it is far from what I intended.

I am really more concerned about what happens after a supposed beautiful relationship collapses. Do you wallow in the pit of self-pity or you pick yourself up in a bid to announce to the world that you are doing just fine?

Better still, do you allow
yourself the time to heal?

Break ups do not suddenly make it easy for you to stop loving the ones that hurt you.

Self-help books and friends would tell you that you deserve better but the ultimate mantle to propel your life towards the right direction falls on you.

There are so many resources on what you should do after a heartbreak, so I wouldn’t be recounting what you probably already know. On the other hand, I would share what you shouldn’t do.


Do not get into another relationship immediately after a bad break up.


Hold up, take stock of your life. Getting into another relationship isn’t a goal you should pursue. Chances are your heart is still bleeding and you are more likely to take out the anger on your new partner. There is also the probability that you entered into the new relationship for all the wrong reasons which means you may be on your way to another failed relationship.

Do not stalk your ex’s social media page:

 A lot of people admitted to stalking their ex’s social media page after a break up. I am only going to be stating the obvious if I tell you that this is probably going to make you madder especially when they seem to have moved on without you.

You do not need that jealousy vibe so keep off. If you don’t think you are disciplined enough to keep off, then you may try blocking them till you have healed.

Do not make all of your social media posts about your ex:

By all means have fun. post pictures of you and your friends having a blast at the movies but do not let all you do be controlled by your hurt. Do not post the pictures because you are trying to prove you are happy. Genuinely seek the happiness. you should avoid posting cryptic messages on your social media pages. You are only going to invite unnecessary attention to yourself.

See, parting ways isn’t always an easy decision to make especially after it looked like you had found forever.

While there are certain virtues that may endear us to other people, a big part of it is out of one’s control. This principal fact is the basis of most heartbreaks. A good girl with all the right attributes may suddenly find herself left high and dry. It is okay to feel hurt but you shouldn’t allow the hurt shape you negatively.

Many things in life are not fair but you deserve to be happy. God wants you to be happy.



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