What Does Your Account Statement Look LIke???

We always have bank accounts and get inflated with pride, with seeing it’s balance ‘ballooning up’. We also, tend to restrict withdrawals, while intending to make more and more deposits therein to take the balance to satisfactory... naah, to enviable figures.

You and your spouse each have an “emotional bank.” You are either making deposits, or withdrawals into, or out of, your spouse’s bank. Because you tend to “speak” one love language … and your spouse “hears” another, what you were hoping to come across as loving and caring, ends up being heard as something completely different.

We make deposits into his/her account by praise, positive attention, sincere apologies, or acts of service. Examples of withdrawals are such things as criticism, sarcasm, ignoring, or failing to keep promises. If a relationship is wounded, we have probably made too many withdrawals and not enough deposits into that persons (emotional) bank account.

It might help you to think of these deposits as long-term investments. Like any investment, you might not see results immediately. Nevertheless, if you persist, the results will be obvious so, choose your deposits wisely.

Covenant Relationships would like to urge upon you to make more and more deposits in your emotional bank accounts, by affectionate touches, spending quality time together (at home and on special dates, loving words, encouraging words, celebrate each other's victories, helping out in unexpected ways, remembering important dates (birthdays, anniversaries etc,) occasional surprise gifts, showing respect and any others you can think of.

Women run a pay-as-you-go emotional account service...make your deposits daily-Leke Adler

By Ijeoma Olujekun

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Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

Last month in the article Teaching your children the importance of hard work and responsibility, we talked about the building blocks and blockades necessary to raise our children to become successful adults.

Although it was considered enough to feed, clothe and raise children in our parents' day, this is no longer sufficient because our understanding of what they really need from us has changed. As we know, it’s not the smartest people that are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life.

You probably know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. When it comes to happiness and success in life, emotional intelligence (EQ) matters just as much as intellectual ability (IQ). Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at work, and achieve your career and personal goals.

As we all know a person's childhood plays a major role in shaping his/her personality. Developing emotional intelligence in children will help them build a rational thought process with which decisions are made in future. It can save your child a lot of trauma caused by imprudent actions later. Further, emotional intelligence helps the child to understand his/her skills, abilities and capabilities better. It contributes to the child's rapid psychological development in a positive direction. Hardships are a part of life and an emotionally intelligent child is better equipped to deal with them. They will be able to understand themselves as well as others and become sensitive to feelings.