I had an argument today with a friend, he was trying to
justify the high divorce rates in the present times to the couple’s relative
youthfulness and a woman’s reluctance to understand that men are natural
cheats.
While I agree that maturity has a very important role to
play in today’s successful marriages, I refuse to agree such maturity only
comes with age. Being a young person doesn’t mean one is blinded or too
incapacitated to make the right choices. I have been privileged to meet young
purposeful men and also older guys that were just being pushed about by
whatever life drops in their laps.
A child on the street can definitely tell more about the
hard knocks of life compared to a man that grew up within a decent family. All
I am trying to say is if you are being asked out by a 26 year old and a 34 year
old guy and you are of a marriageable age, what you really need to look at is
the way they handle things. Maturity only comes with experience and
experience is not necessarily a factor of age.
What you are looking for is a man that can hold his own. He needs
to have a stable source of income or other means through which you are sure you
wouldn’t be caught up in a financial mess in the future. A man that runs to his
mum every time there is an issue between you two is not who you are looking
for.
Moreso, growing up with another counts for something. You
are not just lovers, you are friends. Not every young man is clueless and not
every old one is ready.
Age in this situation could really be just a number. I know
you know better than pressuring a 21 year old boy or an 18 year old girl into
marriage. I am writing this bearing in mind those in the mid 20s.
I would love to read your thoughts however, what do you
think the right age should be for a guy and for a girl? Do you also think being
young automatically translates to immaturity?
