The ability to express ourselves has to be one of nature’s
greatest gifts to us all. The beauty of the vulnerability when in love is
another of nature’s awesomeness. Being able to understand that one;s happiness
is connected to another is a great wisdom to acquire.
It is hard not to make reference to this time of the year
when writing any of my posts because this period means a lot. It is that period
of deep reflection. I know many people have long lists of new don’ts and dos
that will probably not make it past the first week of January but like they say
there is no harm in trying.
My list is always written in sections and arranged according
to priorities. I like to be able to count my blessings literally and sometimes
pat myself on the back for being so disciplined. I digress (forgive my self-adulation).
Goals are important because they keep you conscious of what the desired end is and they act as the scale to measure one's achievements by.I have money goals, business goals, spiritual goals, health
goals, relationship goals and added to that list is parental goals. I am
teaching myself to observe more caution and patience in dealing with my toddler
and God knows I can’t do that on my own. I need the Lord on my side for all
these goals I have set.
Interestingly, my relationship goals are formed from lessons
learnt in the past year and I am going to share them with you now.
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I hope to love with no holds back and invest my
trust totally in my husband. I must confess in the past year I might have been
guilty of over thinking some things but I learnt logic is not a great company
to have at all times. Things don’t necessarily need to follow a certain path for them
to be right. After all, 1+1=2 and so is 0+2.
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I hope to always remember that happiness is collective.
Individual happiness’s great but you will agree with me when I say individual
happiness can be very selfish. I learnt to see pass my own happiness and invest
in the common happiness of my family because I discovered in this common
happiness, I could still find individual happiness. I will be happy having an
undisturbed long night sleep but happier to know my daughter is able to do the
same. I am not a big eater and I could really just lay down through the kitchen
time but I feel delighted seeing the satisfied look on my husband’s face
whenever he eats that I forget how tired I might have been.
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I hope to maintain a balanced life. While working
tirelessly to invest in the common happiness of the family. I hope to remember I
am also important. Some ‘me’ time will do us all a lot of good in order not to
live a frustrated and depressed life. Closely attached to this goal is the need for me to remain the 'girl' my husband fell in love with. I hope to spice up things once in a while just to keep our relationship fresh. All in all I hope to maintain a decent balance.
I have some other goals attached to these ones but these are
my ultimate relationship goals. I hope to read yours too.
Happy New Year In Advance beautiful people.
One of my favourite people came by my house last weekend and asked if I had read Toke Makinwa’s On Becoming. Coincidentally, she was the fifth person asking that same question in the three days since the launch of the book and I must confess that with the unending conversations about the book on my various social media timelines, the decision to hold off reading it till later became harder to keep.
