On the Brink of Insanity: The Case of Janet Bond

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When it comes to life, people, jobs, and anything else that can play on my emotions, I have one simple rule - "the moment you start to act in an unbecoming manner, or you find yourself evolving into someone else, it's time to cut your losses and move on."

This rule has always worked for me; perhaps it is one of the reasons why people get frustrated with me when I don't rise to the occasion of anger, emotional outbursts of unnecessary slander, and fist fights. Nope, you would not catch me engaging in any of those. If I need to give a piece of my mind, I will do so as calmly as possible and be on my way. But of course you're not here to read about how I handle conflict or emotional displays of strife in my life. You are here to read about Janet Bond, and possibly find out who she is. No need to keep you in suspense- You are Janet Bond. You and the many other women who have let the failure of their relationships push them to the brink of insanity. 

I've always known that women are not exactly big fans of one another. Placing a seemingly superior woman in a room full of seemingly 'normal' women can turn the room green with envy. O yes, there is such a thing ass collective envy where women hate on someone they perceive as superior, not because she's a bad person but because you know... she swishes into the room like she owns the place and comes across as 'off-ish'. That really does not surprise me. It's not normal for me, but it's not surprising. What surprises me is the women who date and marry philandering men, or force men to be with them, and then proceed to stalk, threaten and possibly maim any other woman that man comes in contact with. Yes, those are the Janet Bonds... they can tell you how many parts per million of oxgen their man inhales in a day, and his resting heart rate. They check the car mileage to be sure he went to work and nowhere else; they divert his calls to their phone just so they can yell at any female voice on the other end. Yes, they actively seek out any woman they think might take their place, and proceed to announce that they are married to the man in question, and have no plans whatsoever of relinquishing their position. It doesn't matter if she's just his buddy or even a client; the lines must be drawn and she must know who calls the shots where the mister is concerned. 

*SIGH*

Dear Janet Bond, please stop! Stop before you go over the wall into full insanity. Stop before you end up in a psychiatric hospital chained to a bed, with doctors administering sedatives to keep you normal. Your public displays, stalking, and emotional tantrums are all you need to see that your relationship is not working. No, it's not because of his female friend or his female colleague. Its because he doesn't care enough for you and deep inside you know it. 

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Three Reasons Your Relationship Might Fail

Every relationship has a chance of failing, however there are some efforts we put in ourselves to contribute to the demise of our relationships. Often times, external influences are our role models/major factors that cause us to slowly decapitate an otherwise beautiful relationship. Here are three reasons why your relationship might fail if you are not vigilant.

• Drama: The fastest way to frustrate your partner and destroy your relationship is to create unnecessary drama. For some reason, some people are so comfortable with creating drama, they revel in it. Without it, they get bored, believe the relationship lacks a certain vava-voom, and generally believe they are hanging with the wrong person. Some people try to emulate the dramatic reality shows they see on TV, believing their relationships ought to have the unnecessary fights, the public display of anger and of course the 'kiss and make up' faction that makes everything seem perfect. Stop the drama, no really, please do. It is unnecessary, exhausting for mature minds and just downright irritating. If you want your relationship to go the distance, stop pulling stories out of thin air, building them up in your head and creating a whole scene around them! If it's from your imagination, it's not worth fighting over!

• Insecurity: Too many people are insecure - men and women alike. Insecure men try to either control their women or they become wimps that care to her every whim. Insecure women on the other hand, either become victims of emotional and physical abuse, or they try to dominate their men in a bid to make themselves feel better. Insecurities play a very big role in the destruction of relationships, and weird enough, no one is picking up on that! Asking your partner to report his or her every move, going through his or her cellphone to know who they've been texting or chatting with, are all signs that are concurrent with the idea of a self-confessed private investigator, who is too scared to be in a room by himself. Stop the insecurities! So your partner is out with friends, that is no assurance that he or she is cheating! Before the relationship, your partner was an individual with a life filled with work or friends or family, or a combination of all three. That will not change simply because you are in an exclusive relationship. Everyone needs time out with other people every now and then. Take a chill pill!

• Apathy: Now, this is probably the worst one of all. The development of apathy on any side of a relationship means there is an unshakable lack of concern, emotion, or even enthusiasm. Many people develop apathy in their relationships without realizing it; they stop trying to look good for their partner, they stop going on dates, they stop giving compliments, and generally just assume anything their partner does for them is a right they possess. Apathy is often evident by the lack of appreciation even for little things, the lack of admiration and most importantly, the lack of interest in whatever their partner has to say. Apathy is definitely a dangerous relationship killer, but it can be overcome by making conscious effort to make your partner feel special. This may not be achieved by buying an expensive piece of jewelry; even the little things will help. A sincere compliment every now and then, conversation, and simply just taking note of the little changes in your partner can turn things around for good. Talking, laughing and praying together are the strongest weapons against apathy!

You can save your relationship or marriage if you make the necessary effort. \

XOXO