Sunday, May 11, 2014

The ACTS of Love

Love is more than a feeling. .. we have all heard that many times, it is probably beginning to sound cliché. As cliché as it may sound, we can't deny the fact that it's true. Love is more than just a feeling, or butterflies in your tummy, it is a verb. It is an act of doing. It is not just empty words, it is a verb full of actions. There are certain acts of love that many of us have either taken for granted or have not bothered to learn. I have termed these factors ACTS of love because the acronym ACTS sum them up nicely.

#1 Appreciation: Relationships always get to a stage where both parties take each other for granted. Wonen say this happens after the man gets his way sexually and many men say this happens when a woman knows she is absolutely loved by her man. Whatever the case, appreciation in many relationships depreciate and that's what often leads to dissatisfaction and unhappiness. Learn to appreciate your partner! It won't take anything out of you to buy a bouquet of flowers for your lady, to prepare a nice dinner for your man, to even buy a card to say thank you for being a wonderful partner to me. Everyone wants to be reminded every now and then that they are special; your partner is not an exception.

#2 Compassion: I believe it is easier to love someone if you can put yourself in that person's shoes. These days, many of us are too selfish to worry about other people's problems, not even our partner's. We don't want to be bothered with their work issues. We act like we are listening but our minds are elsewhere. We just don't want to be bothered. When you decide to go into a relationship, you are signing up to be a partner, a listener, a helper and a friend. Compassion is an important factor and one of the best ways to show someone you care.

#3 Trust: It is possible to trust someone without loving him or her but can you claim to truly love someone without trusting that person? Trust is an act of love. These days, many relationships are devoid of trust; everyone is trying hard to play detective. Husbands don't trust their wives, wives can't trust their husbands. "I trust no one" is on the lips of many men when they approach women and I can't help but wonder... "well, what's the point of us dating if you can't trust me?" People have sex with each other but can't answer each other's phones for fear of crossing a line or discovering something disheartening. Showing your partner that you trust him or her and also showing you are trustworthy is an act that will help your relationship.

#4 Sharing: These days, sharing is the one thing many of us don't want to do. We don't want to give anything but we want to get everything. Men don't want to pamper their women and women just think it's wrong to buy a guy a gift. I don't know if it is the stingy factor at work in most of us but I know for sure that when it comes to giving and sharing, we are simply doing things wrong. You can give without loving, but can you love without giving? No!!! Ladies, giving is not a man's duty only. It won't kill you to buy your man a gift once in a while. Don't put too much burden and expectation on your man, share them with him.

Relationships are about two people willing to work together, walk together and share everything together. 


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