Monday, July 29, 2013

The Lies We Women Believe...

1. The best way to get over one man is to get onto another. This goes out to all serial daters.You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing appealing about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. Fortify your relationship with God. Rebound relationship is toxic.

2. Less is more. This is only true when it comes to accessories or makeup. The media and peer pressure make many women believe that the “Hot" girls get the best guys. Hence, show us as much of your back, boobs, lower waist, upper bum and legs as possible. This does a lot of harm to girls and women who don't have much confidence and further affects their self-esteem..

3. Good Sex will make him stay. No it will not. Men do not marry the women just because they have the best skills in the bedroom. If they did, there would be no prostitutes or pornstars. 

4. Marriage will complete me. Sometimes, when we lack in completeness we often seek it in relationships, marriage, sex, or material things. Things that seem to improve acceptance. Never embark on a relationship just to fill in a void in your life.

5. Kids will make him stay. You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within. Kids are more likely to make a woman stay than a man. Don't EVER try to use a child to keep a man. and while you're at it, avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

6. If I marry a Godly man I will have the perfect marriage. I guess it depends on what you your definition of perfect is.You cannot ride on the coattails of anyone to get into heaven and no matter how Godly a man you still have to work to make the marriage a success. Secondly, you will not be able to identify a Godly man if you are not Godly yourself, you will think that because he is active in church and his prayers are the loudest, he will make a good and Godly husband and therefore your marriage will be blissful. Perhaps his prayers are the loudest because he knows there is so much work that needs to be done in his life. 

7. My spiritual development is not as important as my husband's. Many women struggle with the fact that their husbands don’t pick up the gauntlet to be the spiritual head of the home as the Bible talks about. They think their spiritual maturity makes no difference as long as their husband are not standing up as the spiritual head. This is false, going under him and pushing him up… encouraging him and assuring him he can get to that place, makes you the help mate you are supposed to be. Wives must fast & pray for their husbands, as they have a very important role within the home. They must also convey a quiet & meek spirit , while showing respect to her husband. 

8. I am valuable because I am beautiful. When some women spend a fortune on beauty product its because they feel that beauty makes them worthy of love and admiration. I can tell you for free that, God would not give us a worth that fades away so easily. Whenever God talks about giving someone worth, He talks about “clothing” them. If you think this refers to physical clothing alone please contact me personally. a girl, who is Godly, Loving, caring, with self esteem and who respects herself and knows the fact that She belongs to a single man and not to every other man is respected. As Proverbs 11:22 says ” Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion. ”

9. "Baby, you know I love you. How could you ever doubt my love for you and how much I care for you?" You want to know why so many women get their hearts broken by men? Among other reasons, because of their "addiction" to hearing these three words: "I love you." All womanizers know the quickest way to endear themselves to a woman is to tell her, "I care for you, baby ... I love you." Those three words are like a psychological aphrodisiac for most women.

You need to get out of this trap. If you keep falling victim to that trap and you will keep getting dogged out by men. Men who are sincerely in love with you do not tell you this right before trying or whilst trying to have sex. They will tell you they love you in a random manner "just because."

10. "Baby, of course I'm going to marry you someday. I know we've been dating for six years, but I am going to propose to you soon." I have known men to propose to a woman after dating them for five years. I will not go on record as saying that never, ever happens. That being said, the vast majority of men know within the first year of dating a woman if they are going to propose to that woman or not. He may postpone proposing to his woman because he doesn't feel stable in his career or because he's wondering if there might be another woman who would be a better match, but it shouldn't take five or more years to determine if you are "the one."

11. Modesty means boring. "Modesty isn't about hiding ourselves; it's about revealing our dignity." The dignity we have as image-bearers of God (Gen. 1:27).When girls think of the word “Modesty,” it is an automatic turnoff for most of them. It’s a word that has been associated with “old-fashioned,” “holy-holy” and, let’s be honest, “boring.” So let's introduce you to the word “discreet” This term has what is truly meant behind what being “modest” in today’s age means. Discreet means “secretive,” “mysterious,” “classy,” and even “elegant.” This so much more attractive to the men we really want to catch. Men who actually want to get married and raise godly homes. Isn't that what we want for ourselves? Women who seek attention usually get the wrong attention, 

12. Submission makes you a doormat. Many people have the opinion that the Christian doctrine of submission is a way of oppressing women, intellectually terrorising them, etc . I can safely say it is not true. The reasons women are expected and instructed to adhere and develop certain traits is because of the special roles God gave women and the way women were created. Unfortunately many men and women do not understand this, so women resist submission.

13. The Proverbs 31 woman does not exist, so why try? She does. Note, however that she did not become that way in one day, or do all these things in one day. Count all the things that you do, such as work, take the kids to out, visit your parents, go to P.T.A. meetings, blah, blah, blah. Proverbs 31 woman was a busy lady, but so are the women of today. She honoured her husband and brought honour to him. Many of you will agree that the woman you are at the altar transforms and matures (if we allow her ) during the course of the marriage. You can become the Proverbs 31 woman.

By Ijeoma Olujekun 

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