Are You Intimidated by Her Success?

Men had been known to be bread winners from the 20s through to the 70s while women were left at home as housewives who took care of the children. But today we have female bread winners and it is becoming increasingly common. 
Today, women are taking the centre stage in the business world (or different aspects) and also competing with their male counterparts to take up leadership positions as we see in the case of the new British Prime Minister Theresa May and also Hillary Clinton contesting for the Presidential seat of United States of America. 

You will also find women getting better paying jobs than men or on the same level. One in four women now earn more than their male counterparts.

More women now believe that if they are smart, powerful, determined and motivated, they are capable of achieving success and they go for it. When the success is visible, these women need support from their partners but some men are afraid of the growing success of their partners that they discourage them or even ask them to quit. Love and respect should take precedence over how successful either party is. A woman’s success should be her partner’s pride and this shouldn't intimidate him. I know of women who earn way more than their partners and are still submissive and respectful.

Men’s insecurity of their partner’s success is saddening and these men need to take a chill pill so they don’t strain their relationships. Your partner’s success does not make you less of a man nor does it affect your ego in any way, you need to change your mind set and embrace your partner’s moment of success. I don’t blame women who hide their success or promotion from their partners for fear that it might affect their mood and they may change their attitude towards them. 

A man’s ego will normally question his wife’s audacity on the purchase of a house which she told him after she had bought it. A man should be proud that he has a successful partner not a liability for a partner. Some men deliberately make their partners full time house wives so they don’t compete with them and even get ahead of them. Men should see their partner’s success as a complement not competition. No woman wants to compete with her partner because it will strain her relationship.

Chimamanda Adichie once said that ‘’Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in’’