I used to be so naïve about many things and too shy to ask
questions on issues that could probably save my life. I was that kid that loved
to be left alone. I naively thought I had a gentle character when I was very
well sleeping on my rights half of the time. As time progressed, I discovered
nobody is going to look out for me better than I look out for myself so I made
conscious steps to speak up and whenever I am not clear about certain issues, I
don’t hesitate to ask questions.
I have applied this philosophy of mine several times and it
has helped me a lot.
There are times I get asked questions too and I try my best
to answer to the best of my ability.
An acquaintance asked me some time ago if I
thought the guy she was involved with loves her. It sounded like a trick
question to me at first ‘because I thought it was a no brainer. Why should one think the person that one is exclusively
in love with doesn’t share same feelings with one? But this things do happen.
Perhaps it is one of those cases where one thing led to another and you are not
really sure if both of you are a ‘thing’ or not. It could also be one of those
cases where the person you are involved with is hot and cold.
Whatever the case may be, nothing compares to getting mixed
signals and wanting to know where one stands. It is unfair for anyone to be putting
in work on barren land.
The society demands for a lady to be graceful about things
so a lady might feel reluctant to ask certain questions. Truthfully those sorts of questions never hurt anyone because for your
sanity you need to know if he is in or not, so by all means ask. It is wrong
to assume your position. People love free things and nobody would stop you from
cleaning, cooking or giving whatever privilege you might be granting such
person.
I was listening to the radio the other day when a woman
called in. one could tell how unhappy she was by the tone of her voice. She said
the man she has been living with for over twelve years and has three kids with,
refused to marry her. The man said he wasn’t sure she is the one. Can you
imagine that?
The signs are always visible, somehow we can tell when
someone is not really into us but we selectively hold on to those memories when
they acted like they were. There are million and one reasons why he probably hasn’t
made up his mind on you. He could be treating you like the bird in hand while
still hunting for the other birds in the bush. Whatever the case, If he is not sure what you are to him as to
define it, then he is probably not ready so just let him go. He can come back
when he is sure but don’t be caught in that web of ‘maybe’.
However, not everyone is a bad person, so he could be
passing such signals because he is a very shy person. If this is your
observation, then you can help him by making him define what he really feels
for you and make it exclusive.
This might sound cliché but you truthfully deserve so much
better. Love is not an emotion that can
be tamed. If love is in your life (unless you are a special attention seeker)
you don’t need to be told, you’l know.
Time is wealth, do not let anyone waste your precious time .
Cheers.
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